New York's Metropolitan Museum of Art gave Rei Kawakubo her druthers - and then some - for its spring fashion exhibit. They offered the Met Breuer, she wanted the flagship. They wanted the lights turned down, she wanted the kliegs up, up up. Curator Andrew Bolton wanted her early works, she refused. Guess who won, without ever pitching a fit. Live and learn from the artist / designer who never says yes unless she means it.